FIRST YEAR OF COLLEGE IS OVER!!!!

Okay... so my first year of college is over! I am DONE with freshman year!! I have a TON of pictures to post and tips to share so bare with me. I have a table of contents because this is such a long post if you are looking for something more specific you can easily find it. :)

Table of Contents:
1. Tips and Things I Learned
2. Room Set-Up and Agreements with Roommate(s)
3. Budgeting Time and Keeping up with Homework
4. Food
5. Trips and Experiences
6. Mail and Packages
7. Pets
8. Roommate Problems etc.
9. Packing
10. Saying Goodbye for Four Months!!

Okay, here goes!!
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1. TIPS AND THINGS I LEARNED:

- You share everything including space. Girls from the upper floor lost their kitchen privileges and decided to come down to our floor to cook. They also stole my stuff to cook. It turned into me putting a lock on my cabinet, throwing the food they made into the trash and putting up what felt like dozens of sticky notes telling them to stop cooking in our kitchen before they actually stopped.
This also means you share the bathroom- stalls, showers, sinks. The showers generally accumulate lots of human hair. Its gross. I always cleaned mine out. I also got to know the cleaning woman which makes you want to keep things as clean as you can.
- Get to know your floor cleaning woman or man. I was on an all girls floor so we had a woman.
- Don't become best friends with your roommate. It will end badly. I will go into this more in 8.
- People will steal your stuff. I've had my kitchen stuff stolen so many times and then I had some bathroom stuff stolen. Not ok. Or fun.
- This isn't high school. If you were a loser or unpopular like me you will be fine. If you were popular, good luck. The world stops revolving around you. I saw a lot of girls who used to be popular in high school have a pretty tough time.
- Your dorm room is small. Don't bring everything from home. It won't fit.
- Weeknights try to get to bed around 11:00 pm if you have an 8:30. I didn't second semester, my first class was at noon but you can't sleep until 11:30 and quickly get ready. Be productive! I would wake up at 9:00 and get breakfast with one of my friends before she had her 10:40 class.
- Weekend nights stay up as late as you want as long as it is a reasonable time. Sometimes I would go to bed at 3:00 am which was fine because I could sleep in later.
- If you are a makeup and hair freak like me, realize you can't bring all your makeup and hair stuff to college. Pack a travel makeup case. I bought mine from Sephora. It's pretty big and roomy.
- Buy those Sterilite plastic drawer sets from Walmart to go under your bed.
- Speaking of your bed, either loft it or have it up to the highest rung for more storage space.
- If I relived my freshman year with the same roommate I would have lofted my bed. You need some 'you' space and I never had that. Which gets REALLY bad if things start getting rough.
- Buy a clip light for the foot or head of your bed which will clip onto the dorm bed and can be turned on when your roommate goes to bed but you are still awake.
- Be open minded about absolutely everything.

                              The lock on my cabinet in the kitchen (check to make sure this is allowed!)

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2. ROOM SET-UP AND AGREEMENTS WITH ROOMMATE(S)

Whether you think you and your roommate will be besties or not plan and sign the roommate agreement your RA (resident advisor- an upperclassman who lives in the hall and oversees stuff). Or create your own if your RA doesn't have one for you to sign to. Make sure you create it together!
Here is an example (you can use it):
- No boys spending the night.
- Keeping the room reasonably clean at all times.
- Split alone time in the room evenly. We each get one hour alone in the room each afternoon/ evening (plan when this time would happen before signing the contract).
- Don't use/ take the other person's stuff without express permission for the occasion.
Then sign it!
As far as setting up the room goes, its pretty easy just make sure you agree on where everything goes. My room only had one window. I thought we were going to share it but my roommate had other plans. A few months later we moved things around and I got the window. I tried to share but she took her stuff off the window sill.

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3. BUDGETING TIME AND KEEPING UP WITH HOMEWORK

This is difficult! I don't party. At all. Period. But plenty of my friends do. They had trouble at times keeping up with homework and planning their time accordingly to get it done. Your time becomes budgeted in college between four categories:
- Sleep
- Food
- Homework
- Friends
To some, friends take priority. However homework and sleep should. Well, and food, which becomes less important as exams approach. Also, as exams come up, food and friends blend into one. Your break from studying becomes eating food while hanging out with friends and yes, talking about exams. It is quite a dismal time on campus. There are quiet hours so you can't be insanely loud or anything.
Anyways, write down all homework that you have- when it is assigned! You also should then write a list of homework assignments you are going to tackle each day, so when you are assigned a huge paper or project at the beginning of a semester you can get it done bit by bit and when you get reminded the day before its due you aren't pulling an all nighter.

                                                        Page from my assignment book.



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4. FOOD

Commons food is good. In fact at my school it is so good that people from in town come out and eat it. However I love to cook so there are some times I will just cook with like three ingredients while I scavenge for more food. About once a month I have a ladies dinner where two of my best friends have dinner in my hall that I make. Its a ton of fun! They help and bring ingredients and we eat in my floors study room.

                                                             A Commons Dinner

                                                                    Frozen Yogurt!

                                                                    I made popovers!
                                             


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5. TRIPS AND EXPERIENCES

I went on two general field trips, one special one and one very very special one. I went on one in October that went to a farm. It was just fun. The other one was going to see the Dahli Lama and hear him talk. That was also in October and pretty amazing!
I volunteered my life in the fall for the Obama campaign and got to meet Joe Biden one day before the election. I met him and got to talk to him. Of course I cried. I am pathetic and fully aware. :)
And in January of course a small group of students (part of college democrats) went to the Inauguration. I go to school in a southern state so college republicans have a much larger following.
Take advantage of trips you can go on! It's always fun and a learning experience!

                                                                       At the farm!

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6. MAIL AND PACKAGES 

Getting anything in the mail from your family gets exciting! However one time I got to the mail room and had what felt like zillions of package slips. That. Was. Not. So. Much. Fun. Especially the carrying everything back. I thought I was going to cry. Anyway, ask for care packages from family members instead of birthday presents so you get a box of stuff with practical things. 

                                                         CRAZY amount of package slips!

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7. PETS

I am a pet lover. I LOVE PETS!!! At home we have a dog and I own a rabbit so of course I got the only thing I could have which was a fish. I got two goldfish. Make sure you check the schools website first to see what you can and can't have in your dorm room. A girl down the hall from me had a duck. Yes, your vision is working, I said a duck. However please, please, please have a plan if this animal lives longer than when you are going to be at college. I had a friend who would take it because she lived twenty minutes away, and my school has a program which will take your fish and find a new home for your scaly friend. DO NOT JUST FLUSH YOUR FISH WHEN THE YEAR ENDS. Both of my fish died before the school year ended. One I buried (illegally) and the other I flushed. There are all these rules about not burying a fish but I couldn't imagine flushing him. 

                                                      Pooh-Bear one of my goldfish.

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8. ROOMMATE PROBLEMS ETC.

My roommate and I started out as best friends. I think a lot of people expect that too. Then in January someone I felt close to back at home passed away. Keep in mind I am 700 miles away from home at school. I decided two days before her funeral I had to be home. I bought train tickets and told my roommate. Apparently that wasn't enough time for her so she started not liking me. I found out the last day I was at school she told our mutual friend she had felt that she was the 'last to know.' By the way that mutual friend was her ONLY friend (she is transferring to the school where her boyfriend goes which people should NEVER do, unless there are more reasons). After that I don't know what happened. She skyped her boyfriend all the time in the room so I had no time in the room and then she and her boyfriend would talk about me when I was in the room. Finally I wrote her a note about how we needed to talk. She became worse. I had a sort of emergency surgery in March and she was no help. I texted her and told her I was getting surgery and she didn't send anything back. She could have cared less if I died. At the end of the year I wanted closure so I left her a note saying it was if I didn't get the chance to say goodbye.... blah blah blah. I told her I was there if she ever needed anything. I got back to the room hoping to say goodbye in person but she left without any note, nothing. Absolutely nothing. And honestly, now that I am out of that situation I feel sorry for her. I feel sorry she has no friends but her boyfriend and that she didn't get closure from our horrible roommate situation. There were plenty of times I would call my mother and cry on the phone over what that girl did.

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9. PACKING

Packing is hard, tiring work. If you are anything like me you will procrastinate until all your exams are over and done. Then at that point you will need to bring in your three most trustworthy friends to pack and move things into the storage unit you rented (if you did). I personally hate when people touch my stuff, move it or do anything. However this is the point in life where you need to give up and allow others to help you. I didn't know what was going home or going into storage because I didn't do most of the final taping of boxes and zippering of bags. It wasn't until I got home that I found out what actually made it home. And despite my negative outlook my friends did an A+ job on getting everything done. I know for a fact I could not have done it or gotten to the airport without them. 

My closet before with everything......                         My closet emptied of everything......

                                                      The cleaning and packing process.....

My bed before..........                                                                 My bed after.....

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10. SAYING GOODBYE FOR FOUR MONTHS

This involves tears, smiles and lots of hugs. But thats when you know that you have good friends if you are crying when you say goodbye. Some of my friends I know I will be friends with forever. And just remember after your freshman year... forever has only just begun.

First Semester

Okay, so my first semester is over. And I want to be honest so I can say 2012 was one of the toughest years of my life. When my parents left I sat in my dorm room alone crying for hours.
So if I can offer a tip it would be after your parents leave have a plan to call another family member (mine was my aunt). We talked for an hour and I just talked. It helps you stop crying for a little while.
When I woke up I have never felt so alone in my life. I woke up and felt a pit in my stomach.
It seemed as though my family had ditched me. As if 18 years of my life had been a lie and they never really loved me. THAT was hard. And it wasn't true of course (my mother was bawling her eyes out saying goodbye). The first day with my roommate was extremely awkward. She was on her new tv that her mom bought and I was on my computer. Despite having emailed back and forth since March we were unable to have a conversation.

All that changed when I went on my preorientation trip. If your school has any sort of preorienttaion trip of any kind or possible a meeting in which you can meet other future students in your class GO!!! REALLY GO!!!! I've met some of my best friends through that group. The people in a preorientation group chose that group for a reason and you will quickly find you all have many things in common.

Classes are difficult. What can I say? Its a school years worth of information in a semester! But don't sweat it just stay on top of your work and don't procrastinate (easier said than done).

September was the hardest month. There were times I would be fine and suddenly be moody and want to be left alone. I wasn't really quite sure how I was feeling and lots of emotions were happening. I had an October break which I am EXTREMELY thankful for. Even if you can go home for a long (or regular) weekend in the fall do it!! It might seem harder to go back but you will be happy in the end. After fall break I went back and felt I had made the wrong choice of a school and was unsure why I was 700+ miles away from home. However as time crept towards Thanksgiving I knew I picked the right place. I started calling it home sometimes by accident. While I go back in a week and I am not too thrilled its hard to come home, get used to it and then ship yourself back on a plane back to school. But once your there you don't want to come home. Its a strange feeling.

I can tell you I was honestly scared to go home fall break. I didn't want home to have changed. I knew I changed, but did my home? We were a puzzle and maybe once I was gone they healed the puzzle to three pieces and I just didn't fit anymore. Not the case at all. Your bedroom may seem childish but you didn't miss anything. If anything your parents missed more of you than you missed of things happening in their lives. Trust me it will be okay!

If you have any questions please, please please don't hesitate to comment! :)

Leaving

Today I am leaving. I've packed my bags er, boxes and we are going to start our drive down. I've said goodbye to friends (yesterday) without shedding a tear; thank goodness!! But there was a lot of hugging. Then today I said goodbye to Simon (little puppy love) and I'm going to say goodbye to Chestnut in a little bit. Its so hard to just pack up your life and go somewhere new. It's also exciting, like an adrenaline rush. I'm looking forward to it, but at the same time dreading it. We'll see what happens! I can guarantee you on Sunday there will be tears. All thats left to do is drive. Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don't be afraid. ~Frederick Buechner

Housing!

Today is June 12, 2012 and I need to answer some survey on Housing. I am a little unsure what the heck I am doing/ how to even go about filling out this survey. I hate being confused, especially since its a first come, first serve basis!! ACK! Well, I will try my best! I want to be in New Hall. Its a brand new Residence Hall that is considered 'green' by standards. I also have yet to sign up for my core classes. Why does all this have to happen the week finals starts?!?

Final Letters

I received my final letters from colleges. One was a no and the other was a maybe as a transfer student (aka if I went somewhere else first for a year). And from the third (a college in my state) I was given the option to be wait listed. I chose to be waitlisted.

Oh college, the stressful process is coming to a close! EDIT: In the end I was accepted to the college in my state but I have chosen to go to a school in VA. It was the one I wrote about in my last post "Finding a college is like finding true love"

Finding the Perfect College is like Finding True Love

I visited another college far away from home. When I applied I didn't really think about it. My Mother said I should apply so I did but I didn't really care.

However when I walked onto the campus something happened. Before I even talked to someone I felt like I was home. I realized that at the college the teachers REALLY do care. They want you to do well. They said hi to our tour guide whenever they passed him. The classes are taught using a very hands on method. The people there, including the students were incredibly helpful. I got lost and asked for directions and they were very helpful. They didn't have an attitude about them. I just loved the school. I felt like I could be myself and I wasn't embarrassed by my Mother who was with me. Admit it, you are embarrassed when you go to a college tour and you are with your Mom. Don't ask why it's just embarrassing. But I could have cared less. I was not the least bit embarrassed and I felt totally comfortable asking the tour guide questions at any time.

You know its the right college when you feel you are home.

When a College Visit doesn't go as Planned...

I recently visited some colleges pretty far away from home. And now I am going to tell you about my experience. Up until now there have only been two colleges I have said absolutely no to. Well let me tell you the third one.
This college is pretty far away but I was accepted and I wanted so badly to like it. In fact before even visiting I LOVED it. I was so sure that was where I wanted to go. Where I belonged. However it was not focused on the right things. Everyday you get 'free' ice cream. The buildings were amazing, as if they belonged in D.C. There were many fountains situated everywhere which apparently represented wealth or something. Which, yes you need a LOT of money to go to college but I wouldn't do the fountain thing. During the tour, the guide talked about Facebook pictures that had been taken in various places and might have said one or two sentences that focused on education. Bottom Line: It was a school for kids of very rich parents who just wanted their kids taken care of. The whole place was like a country club. Just like where my grandparents live in Florida.

On your birthday they give you a gift card and balloons. When you are sick they bring you soup. The whole school is tailored to parents who just want their children taken care of 24/7. They even do your laundry. yes, your laundry. At some point in life you have to learn to do your own freaking laundry and college is the perfect time if you haven't already learned! Anywhoo, I left very disappointed. And I am still disappointed and sad that it didn't live up to my expectations. But the perfect college will find you.
*Read my Next Post! It talks about finding the perfect college and how you know.*